Get Acquainted: A climax, also known at Acquainted as an orgasm, is something that represents the strongest sensation felt in an intimate moment.

Climaxing can refer to the metaphorical sense of where one felt the best or it can be used to reference an orgasm specifically, but in general to climax can mean so many things.

The caveat that Acquainted wants people to recognize is that people can climax in so many ways and take various amounts of time to do so. Historically, in our heteronormative world, there has been an orgasm gap to the extent that vulva owners are on average not stimulated enough to achieve orgasm. While this is something that can be skewed by the people who are taking the polls, it is very much a truth which is why people must understand that climaxing might take foreplay for many and none for some.

For vulva owners, to achieve a climax or make it more likely, 20+ minutes of foreplay is recommended as it generates arousal, blood flow to the labias and clitorous, and warms up the pleasure center of the body – the mind.

Generally, there is a refractory period penis owners after reaching climax which is a couple hours for them, while for vulva owners it might be less than a second. Due to porn and tropes that paint a picture that sex ends after the penis owner climax, it is important to understand that climaxing doesn’t have to be the end of the act. For some it might be, but in general, climaxing can bring new desires.

After someone climaxes whether literally or metaphorically, kindness and aftercare is incredibly important for some people so make sure we communicate our needs and leave room for others.

This is because climaxing can bring on a rush of hormones and neurotransmitters that can leave people feeling sensitive and vulnerable. When people are vulnerable, we must always think about how we can make the safest space for everyone involved.